Archive for August, 2009

You Just Never Know…

Thursday, August 6th, 2009

Even good, successful people are people. And we make judgments and assumptions about others, some of which turn out to be true while others are not. The savvy networker must be mindful of this tendency because sometimes we get it wrong. I am no more immune than anyone else.

A few months ago I met someone at a Chamber event. I invited that person to my Thursday networking training group, and she attended. I didn’t particularly like her. There was no good reason for it; it was just a feeling. After the event, I was talking to another attendee who indicated she had the same impression of the person. Based on my judgment and the judgment of another, I decided not to send my usual follow up “let’s get to know each other” email.

About a week later, I received an email from the person. It went something like this:

Juli,

I think you have a great concept, and I’d like to learn more about what you do.

By the way, I met two people at a recent event who I think might be interested in meeting with you. Their contact info is below.

I contacted both of them, and one has the potential to be an excellent strategic partner. You just never know where your next referral is going to come from.

And yes, I arranged a “let’s get to know each other” meeting with her. Good thing her judgment of me was considerably better than mine of hers.

Anyone have a story of a judgment that turned out to be something other than you thought at first?

Communication is Vital

Wednesday, August 5th, 2009

My latest e-newsletter went out yesterday. In it I talked about the importance of identifying who is a bad referral for you. I used the example of a realtor friend of mine who got a referral outside of his licensed jurisdiction. He thought it was a bad referral because he couldn’t service the client.

Within moments of sending the newsletter, I got an email from another realtor chiding me for my example. He would have liked a referral like that because he could give it to another realtor and get a referral fee.

I thanked him for his email because he illustrated beautifully the importance of clear communication about referrals. One person’s bad is another person’s good. If you aren’t clear about that, you might be missing out or getting referrals you don’t want.

Don’t assume your network knows what you want. Conversely, don’t assume you know what the individuals in your network want. Have the conversation. Clearly communicate what you are looking for and ask others to communicate the same to you.

Anyone have stories to share about how good communication led to better referrals? Or how not-so-good communication led to the opposite?

What This Is All About

Tuesday, August 4th, 2009

Yes, it’s time for me to finally start blogging.

I’ll be blogging about many things networking, including the stuff people who know me have come to expect: elevator speeches, good F-Up (that’s Follow Up in case you thought I meant something else), how to work a networking event and lots of other stuff in the face to face networking world.

But I’ve been exploring the world of Social Media, and I plan to blog on that as well. The Web has brought us some great ways to build and maintain relationships, and I wouldn’t be serving the community well if I didn’t post about those as well.

And finally, a topic newly near and dear to my heart. My iPhone. No worries. I’m going to keep it focused. No reviews of games (unless you want them). But a good networker needs to be on the go. And the iPhone and other mobile devices can make that easier. So I’m going to talk some about how I am using the phone to be more productive and less tied to my computer.

It’s going to be fun. So come along. Read. Talk. Challenge. But most importantly. Network well!